Hooking up is like comedy: everything depends on timing. If you’re going to be hooking up a lot, you need to be very aware of how much time you’re spending on each woman, and how far apart you’re spacing your meetings. Of course, there are other ways in which timing is important. If you respond to things too quickly, you look overeager and she might not trust that you can stick to a one night stand. If you wait too long, she’ll lose interest and go after someone who’s more responsive. This article will teach you how long to wait for any specific event you’re trying to plan with your hookup.

How Long Between Messages

“Seems like she is happy to receive your messages”

When you first meet a woman online, it’s tempting to send her a message, then reply as soon as she send you one in return. However, this isn’t something we recommend. In general, wait between three days and one week to respond to a message a woman sends you, especially if it’s the first message. You can read it, but make sure you don’t just respond every few seconds. You don’t want this woman to think you spend your whole life on hookup sites. The one exception to this rule is if the woman is inviting you explicitly on a hookup date, and lets you know she can only do it in the next day or so. In that case, the art of looking cool falls to the art of getting laid as much as possible.

How Long Before the Date

The traditional models of dating just don’t apply to hookups. This is partly because there’s not a lot of tradition behind the idea of the hookup, and partly because every hookup is different. In general, if you’re going to spend time with a woman before hooking up with her, you’re probably not looking for a one night stand. This is why we recommend sending just one message that isn’t driving towards the in-person meeting. After one message where you compliment her and tell her why you’re interested in her, go ahead and respond to any of her responses with an invitation to meet. If she’s stalling, she’s not going to want to hook up with you.

How Long After the Date

“Follow up with her after your first date”

If your date goes well, you’re going to want to see this woman again. There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, many of the best hookups are multiple-occasion hookups, and you can easily enlarge your pipeline of women by hooking up with them over and over. After the first date you should wait at least a week before calling her. If you had some kind of misadventure on your date or if she tells you that she’s got something big coming up in the next couple of days, you can drop her a quick text asking if she’s OK or if she had fun. Otherwise, wait at least a week. If you don’t, she’ll think you want more than a hookup from her.