Hookups are all well and good, but sometimes you need a hookup that offers a little something…extra. In these situations, you’re going to want a girl who isn’t just interested in wine, a good time, and going to sleep right after. How do you know before going out with her whether a woman is into hardcore kinbaku from Japan, or if she’s going to want to roll around in a vat of jello with you and three other women?

Fortunately, there are some ways to tell whether a woman is going to be into really kinky things without waiting and asking at the last moment. If you know whether the girl you’re going to see is going to be open to your ideas, you’re far more likely to have a good time.

Look At Her Profile

Most girls will not put on their profile that they like to “get freaky.” If they do, here’s a hint: they probably don’t. The girls who usually say that they enjoy kinky sex are the ones that enjoy the idea of perhaps being blindfolded, or maybe would consider kissing another woman if they were drunk. These aren’t the women who are into anything really crazy, so don’t expect them to be. Instead, look for the women that are a little shyer about it, who will say things like, “I know what I want, and I know how to get it,” or, “I’m looking for a man who can give me exactly what I want.” These women are rarely looking for plain vanilla sex when they talk like that. Instead, they want a man who can satisfy their every desire, crazy or not.

Check Out Her Pictures

You probably won’t get so lucky that the woman you’re seeing will have pictures of her in a sex dungeon or anything. However, it can be worth it to see what she looks like for other reasons. Hair that’s dyed a crazy color can usually signify that a woman isn’t shy about experimenting. Another thing that can usually tell you that is whether she has clearly visible tattoos, or piercings somewhere other than her ears. These are all quick and easy ways to see if she’s open to trying new things. It’s not a guarantee, but it’s at least something of a hint.

Send a Message

If all else fails and you’re just not sure whether you’ll be able to get freaky with this girl or not, bite the bullet and send her a message. There are going to be hundreds if not thousands of other girls on these sites who will date you even if you do ask them to do something crazy, so don’t be too afraid about driving away a chance at sex. There will always be more girls. Take the leap and ask her to share one of her fantasies with you first. If she’s shy, offer to share one of your own. That way it won’t be so strange.